Holiday Sanity and Sadness

These past few weeks have been a whirlwind of activity – celebrating Thanksgiving, getting ready for Christmas, closing out 2014.

Yoga, meditation, and Reiki have been at the top of my priority list during my free time. I have to say they’ve really helped this busy season feel relatively stress-free! Let’s see if I can still say that after spending time with my extended family over the next few days. 😉

I have to admit that today I’m feeling a bit down and missing my dad. This time last year it felt like such an accomplishment to get to the holidays in one piece that I didn’t really allow myself to feel much of anything. This year, the sadness is there. It’s not such a heavy sorrow anymore. Rather, it’s a dull ache that makes itself felt a little bit stronger from time to time. There’s so much more I could write, but I think I’d rather hold it all in my heart a little while longer.

I hope you all have a great holiday with your loved ones! See you in 2015!

Self Care or Selfish?

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Isn’t it interesting how so many of us put ourselves last on our list of priorities? How many times a day, a week, a month do we put off doing something that would make us feel better or help us relax? We get the message from some many different places (family, society, religion) that we should sacrifice, put others first, and ignore our own needs or else we’ll appear selfish, self-centered, greedy, etc.

But I’d like to argue that it’s not true. We can best give of ourselves, help others, and be of service only after we’ve taken care of ourselves. How can we positively contribute to anything or anyone if we’re exhausted, burnt-out, sick, or even feeling resentful of the fact that we’re sacrificing our needs? We can’t.

Now, I’m not saying that we should all drop everything and only focus on ourselves, everyone and everything else be damned. And I’m well aware that there are people out there who are currently over-extended and have so many responsibilities, and people to care for that the thought of self care is laughable. Sadly, that is reality for a whole lot of people because we’ve all bought into the ideas mentioned above. But what if even those folks found a way to take five or ten minutes for themselves to relax or recharge in whatever way they pleased? Maybe that would mean sitting down with a cup of tea, or reading a chapter in a book, or just really paying attention to breath for a few minutes. The little bit of pleasure we can get in those five minutes can lead to finding a few more five minute breaks throughout the day, which might lead to ten, which might lead to twenty. You see where I’m going here.

I see too many people who have spent their entire lives putting others before themselves (consciously or unconsciously) and now, when their health is compromised and they need to be taking care of themselves, they don’t. They don’t know to make themselves a priority and they’re uncomfortable with it because it goes against the way they lived their lives up until this point. It’s heartbreaking, frustrating, and unnecessary.

I encourage all of you to take some time for yourself EVERY DAY and do something to help you relax or make you happy. It’s such a simple act and can have such a profound affect!

Today, I took a nice little tea break and sat in the afternoon sun for twenty minutes. It was a wonderful way to relax and recharge. I returned to my office with renewed focus and a desire to get things done.

How are you going to care for yourself today?